This Girl's Worth

I’m going to share the most important nugget of wisdom I’ve received in my adult life thus far. Honor yourself.

This concept of honor yourself derived from something that I’ve been raised to understand, making sure we can sleep at night, having a clear conscience, and doing the right thing. When we think about doing the right thing, we talk about greater moral concepts. Doing the right thing is as simple as listening to yourself, choosing yourself, and honoring yourself.

We give too much credit to logic. The thing about logic is that it requires reasoning. Reasoning comes from rationale, and rationale can be made about anything. We have lawyers, public relations, and marketing, all deceitful industries that can create rationale from any situation. The most organic thing we have is our emotions and feelings. While they should not control us, we should listen to what they may be telling us.

When we honor ourselves, such as listening to the clues our feelings drop, we recognize that it allows us to be the best version possible of ourselves. We lose a little bit of ourselves everytime we ignore the signs, repress our needs, make accommodations, fail to speak up for what we need out of fear of losing others, and allow ourselves to stay in situations that push us to the edge. Those feelings we ignore to stay in those situations would safe us from our pain if we listened to them. Some people call it intuition.

This means are feelings are not the end, but the beginning of exploring ourselves. You may feel bored, but truly, the situation makes you feel lonely. When the job doesn’t make us feel good, that coworker makes us feel inadequate, that relationship feels draining, we use our feelings to start asking the right questions. Don’t ignore them, question them and find the cause. They speak to the truest form of us.

When we start saying no to the things that don’t make us feel good, we honor ourselves. When we acknowledge how something really made us feel without feeling like we have to be in control, we honor ourselves. When we do the difficult things such as removing ourselves from bad situations, we honor ourselves.

Doing the right thing is also about honoring yourself. You’re not honoring pride, ego, or feeling the need to be in control, you’re doing the right thing by having boundaries and putting yourself in situations that challenge us and allow the best version of ourselves to show up.

When you choose to honor yourself, you might lose the world, but you’ll gain your soul.

With love! 🥰