Boundaries are like curse words. People don’t like discussing them, people like to use them as a weapon, and they mostly show up in situations where people are angry. However, boundaries are essential for you having a content life. Life is governed by them. There is a reason why there are fences, doors, locks, signs,…

We usually rush ourselves out of our feelings. There’s a reason why it’s called going through the motions. You go through everyday life as if nothing changed, but everything is changing. Just last year, you were in college, pursuing your dream degree, and now you’re in the real world, working a job outside of your…

People always call me cool, calm, and collected. Something I’ve grown to love, but I used to despise. I didn’t want to be laid back and chill, I wanted to be vivacious, lively, and dynamic. Those were the cool kids. The ones who people waited to walk on campus, in the building, etc. Those are…

I asked you before. I told you to mind your business There you go Showing up again in places you’re not supposed to be And you always bring those imaginary friends with you too! What do you call them? Pain, doubt, insecurity, confusion, anger? What kinds of names are those anyway? I put you on…

Little girl. No one could have prepared you for the pain you would experience. Even in all the truths your mother and father gave you, there’s no way they could have protected you from the fall. They couldn’t prepare you for the fight of your life. You thought you were fighting to find yourself, you’re…

I watch more YouTube than television. No, seriously. With the exception of a few television shows I go all out for, I go home looking forward to Jackie Aina and Tati more than I do for Thursday night’s show. While I love me a good primer, foundation, concealer, contour, bronzer, blush, highlight, lipstick, lip gloss,…

It can be difficult to come to terms with someone treating you like crap. You can make excuses for their behavior, but the truth is, some people are just a piece of trash, and they mistreat people to feel better about themselves. Sure, the blatant things people can do to make us feel like crap,…

This article is a mere overview of the effects of trauma and violated boundaries. It is more conceptual in nature and may create more questions than answer them. I encourage you to explore other articles to break down the meaning of trauma and its impact. Being hurt is never a great experience. We’ve all been…