Okay, don’t judge me for using the word ugly. Everyone is ugly to someone.
Girls talk. Sometimes, in not so kind ways. As women, we often want to date someone who we look good with. We want to find that person attractive, however, what’s not attractive is someone who we have to work way too hard to keep their attention. Subconsciously, we date people we think are in our league. Someone who is compatible, a good match, and who we like physically.
However, I’ve heard of women dating men they do not find particularly attractive. Usually, if a woman has experiences with players, it’s refreshing to deal with a man who doesn’t get constant attention, who is a little below the line, you know? A man who isn’t super smooth and charming, but rather a little dorky, tries a little hard, and it doesn’t seem like he has a game or formula, he’s really into you. These men typically aren’t going to make the top 100 Sexiest Men’s List. Something about his imperfections feel safe.
Despite not initially finding this man attractive, we give this man a chance, and boom, he’s also a player, or manipulative, or just downright, a terrible partner. Sigh, I should have been shallow.
While I don’t feel like looks are the most important thing in the relationship, it’s definitely top 5. Why date a man less attractive, thinking he will be safe, when that’s not a guarantee? Date who you’re attracted to and who you like.
Women can be desperate, so a man will get attention if he has some type of game, all of his teeth, and can hide his dysfunction for at least two weeks. If you’re single, think about your high school. Most of the boys you wouldn’t have looked at twice if you had a choice are married with children, and have stayed married. Being ugly didn’t stop them from being married. Some of those men have been married successfully for years and with beautiful women.
Look, the algorithm is messed up. You can be young, beautiful, motherly, mature, stable, and still have a hard time finding a suitable partner. Today’s dating landscape only makes it worse, as everyone dates like they are test driving cars, except no one knows what they want, so they test nearly everything on the lot. Then they build up expectations and unrealistic standards of what a car should feel like based off of the top qualities of every car they have test driven.
While I’m certainly not encouraging you to date someone solely on looks, I am for sure telling you, do not date someone you feel is beneath your level for the sake of being safe. Ugly men can cheat on you and there isn’t any safe way to play the dating game other than to be upfront and not waste your attention or time on something you feel like is a compromise to begin with.
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