It can be difficult to come to terms with someone treating you like crap. You can make excuses for their behavior, but the truth is, some people are just a piece of trash, and they mistreat people to feel better about themselves.
Sure, the blatant things people can do to make us feel like crap, but what about the subtle things?
It’s the subtle things that make the biggest impact. They usually are small actions by crappy people that make us question our sense of security in ourselves. I had to learn the hard way, those little jabs hurt just as much as those punches. Eventually, I had to take for what it was. Here are the signs you should be looking out for. The subtle signs this person dioes not respect you.
1) Little things they do make you feel bad about yourself.
You can’t quite put your finger on it, but anytime they are saying “something out of love” , or “to make you feel better” for some reason, rings the opposite. Don’t ignore this feeling on the inside. Something inside of you is telling you this person may not have the best intentions with your heart. That feeling of “something doesn’t feel right” isn’t a thought, it’s your heart’s way of rejecting. And ignoring internal rejection eventually leads to heartbreak.
2) They make plans and continually cancel them or do not follow up.
When you actually care and have a relationship with someone, it shows. If you make plans and someone never follows up with you or changes plans often due to their own selfishness, they don’t respect you. It’s our job as adults to make our own schedules. Mishaps can happen, but if it seems like anything can alter the plans you two made, this person does not prioritize you.
Eventually, you have to let go of this person who continually cancels plans with you, especially if they don’t seem remorseful for constantly canceling.
3) It is easy for them to low blow you.
We all can say mean things from time to time, but if your so called loved one goes for the jugular everytime they are upset, they could not care less about the way you feel. For the most part, relationships should be safe. It isn’t normal to be constantly or regularly hurt in a relationship. So, if everytime someone is upset, you never know what they’re going to say next, I say, let them go. They don’t respect you.
4) They twist your words. Trying to have a conversation with them to understand feels more like an argument or turns into one.
We should all be able to express our feelings without someone disagreeing or making war. We are all humans with differences in life, understanding, experiences, and thoughts. Explaining your side of the story should not feel like you’re trying to beat someone down to explain yourself or that a full blown argument will erupt before you get your feelings out.
I like to call those moments soundbites. Ever had a partner that you get your moment to speak, and they already cut in with an argument or roll their eyes to what you’re saying, so you never get to finish your thought process or explain your feelings? I have, and those relationships never go anywhere. These are the signs of a poor listener. Listening in the heat of the moment is uncomfortable, but someone who respects you will try their best to do so.
5) Their interactions lack warmth and sincerity.
It’s almost as if when you interact with this person, your being isn’t cared for or considered. The conversations run dry, they are easily distracted, they don’t really ask follow up questions. It’s like they don’t even care.
Sad reality, they probably don’t.
We live in a society where we are taught to ignore our feelings. Our feelings reveal a lot about others. Don’t ignore that feeling! All relationships require respect to thrive. If other people make you feel disrespected, well, they are not company worth keeping.
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